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    • Getting To Be Debt Free

      Posted at 5:26 am by Lisa Cavallari
      Jan 22nd

       

       

      Borrower

      As promised, here is my post on getting out of debt forever!  Think about it: no more credit card payments, no car loans, student loans, etc.  The only bills you pay each month are utilities.  Most loans require you pay interest every month and if they don’t it’s just a matter of time before they do.  Credit cards are the worst!  If it doesn’t already, it should really piss you off when you see how much interest you are paying.  That’s your hard-earned money and these companies are feeding off of you like wolves.  Not anymore.  It stops today.

      Make a plan to sit down with your spouse to go over your monthly budget.  List all of your bills plus expenses from gas to dance lessons to groceries.  Really take a hard look at where your money is going.

      Now, focus on the bills you wouldn’t be paying if they were completely paid off.

      Start small.  Take your smallest loan and begin making more than just the minimum payment each month.  Maybe you can afford an extra $100 a month to pay that loan off sooner.  You may be thinking that it’s best to pay off the loan with the highest interest rate, but it’s emotional decisions that got you into this debt and it’s emotional decisions that will get you out.  We need instant gratification so we are going to pay off the smallest loan first so we breathe a sigh of relief a little sooner.

      Once the first loan is paid off you will become addicted to paying down more.  It’s a euphoric feeling!  Take the money you were once paying your first loan toward and roll it into your next loan.  Maybe that’s your car payment or maybe it’s a credit card.

      Example: You have a student loan of $7,000.  Your monthly payment is $130.  Start paying $230 every month.  A loan that was once going to take you 4 1/2 years to pay off is now paid off in 2 1/2 years.  Not bad.  Take that $230 and roll into the next debt.  Maybe that’s your car payment.  You owe $12,000 on your car.  Your minimum payment is $350 so that bumps your new payment up to $580.  The car that was supposed to be paid off in 2 1/2 years is now paid off in 1 1/2 years.

      It still takes some time, but you see how something as simple as an extra $100 can have a huge impact in the long-term?  It really starts to snowball once you pay off your first two loans.  We paid all of ours loans (car, student and 1/4 of our house) off within 4 years.  Once all of your loans are paid off, then you can start saving.  It’s best to have between 3-6 months worth of salary saved in case of an emergency.

      Retirement should be a huge priority after the savings are in place.  We’re not getting any younger and Social Security will be a joke by the time we are ready to cash in.  If your company offers a 401k you should definitely contribute.  At a minimum, contribute whatever your company matches so you reap the free benefits.

      Let’s say one of you works outside the home and the other is raising the kids.  A very noble profession!  (I am in that boat too!)  The person who stays at home can contribute to a ROTH IRA.  Here’s how it works.  You take your after tax income (take home pay) and put it into this account.  Once you reach retirement age, you can withdraw this money, TAX FREE!  The rate of return is pretty decent too.  Much better than a savings account.

      Another option is a life insurance policy with an annuity option.  This policy has two benefits:  1)If the policy owner kicks the bucket, their spouse is not going to live at the soup kitchen.  Not really anything to joke about because it’s pretty horrifying if there’s nothing in place.  2) When they are ready to retire, the policy owner can withdraw the money from the account that they were contributing to to go out and buy a fun car or book an exotic vacation.  Again, the rate of growth is very good, especially when the policy reaches it’s maturity date (retirement age and beyond).

      My husband and I have all three options listed above.  Our plan is to retire as millionaires.  We definitely had (and still have to) make some sacrifices along the way, but we also celebrate our successes like with a nice bottle of wine and steak from Costco.  The point is, there will have to be some sacrifice in order to get there, but these goals are attainable for everyone.  You have to be disciplined and focused on what you want.

      Money is not a comfortable topic for most people so if you feel pressured to go out to expensive restaurants with family or on shopping sprees with friends, then take a break.  Tell them it’s not in the budget.  If they really care about you and your financial well-being they will understand.  Same holds true with your kids.  Take a break from expensive toys or lots of activities.  Pair things back a bit and remind them about the budget.  One great thing that I love to do is suggest that the kids buy that toy in the store themselves.  Pretty much every time I say this they immediately change their mind.  After all, it’s their hard-earned money and now the toy just doesn’t seem worth it.  😉

      Of course you could be rolling your eyes and thinking, geez, Lisa I want to live a little.  I’m not going to sit around and miss out on all the fun.  To those people I say, you are obviously welcome to your opinions.  In the end though, are you able to get a good night’s sleep without worrying about money?  If so, more power to you.  If not, then consider some of the ideas given.  It’s meant to help you, not make you feel like garbage. Good luck and let me know if you have any questions or comments.  I’d love to hear them!

      Stop Buying

      I love this line above.

      Credit: Dave Ramsey: Financial Freedom – I loved his ideas for paying down debt.  He is not a big fan of life insurance, but that’s where we don’t agree.  I’m sure you’re not loving every idea of mine either (no!).  😉  Just make it your own and get saving, people!!

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    • Champagne Wishes, Caviar Dreams

      Posted at 5:00 am by Lisa Cavallari
      Dec 6th

      This is not a Wine On Wednesday post.  Sorry.  Keeping reading though!

      Anyone remember Robin Leach and his introduction to each episode of Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous?  Watching that show as a kid always left me pining for more.  More house, more cars, more vacations, more, more, more.  Reality always stung a bit after my latest shopping spree and my wallet was empty though.

      It took me a long time to realize that keeping up with the Jones’ is no way to live.  My husband and I tried to when we were first married.  We both drove flashy cars, built a big house out in the suburbs, dined at lots of fancy restaurants in Chicago while we still lived down there.  It was great, until the housing market collapsed and we had our first child.  Boom.  That was a wakeup call.  Suddenly, we didn’t know if we could make both car payments.  I still had a student loan.  Our mortgage felt like this huge burden.  Plus, we were down to one income because we agreed that I would stay home with our daughter.  We spent many nights tossing and turning wondering if our house would be the next foreclosure in the neighborhood.

      After a big dose of humble pie we took a serious look at our expenses.  Where was our money going?  What can we cut back on short of electricity, diapers and food?  We created a monthly budget and set aside one Sunday night a month to go over upcoming expenses and how to pay for them.  The best financial advice came from Dave Ramsey’s book: Total Money Makeover.  That book has saved us over a hundred thousand dollars since we read it five years ago.

      I considered writing this post after the holiday hangover, but I figured there’s never a perfect time to write this so it might as well be now.  We’ve learned a lot in the 12 years that we’ve been married.  Today, my husband and I pay for our cars with cash, my student loan is long gone, we don’t pay for cable, I share my phone expense with my brother and mom so I’m only paying $30 a month and our grocery bill usually adds up to $120 a week.  If we want something, we pay 100% up front.  We don’t take out loans and we never have a balance on our credit card.  Luckily the credit card was never an issue for us, but that’s not the case for most Americans.  Finances are a lot like keeping a healthy diet.  You have to be disciplined.  Of course, there are times where we spend a little more than we normally do, but then we talk about it and get back on track the next month before the spending goes out of control.

      I don’t want to sound preachy or self-righteous.  Basically, I just want to share what I’ve learned so everybody can start feeling better about their money situation.  Here’s some tips to keep your bank account healthy this Christmas season (and maybe get a better night’s sleep):

      • If relatives ask for gift ideas for the kids, see if they would like to contribute whatever they are comfortable adding to pay for extra cirricular activities.  We’ve done this for our daughter’s birthdays too.  It’s helped to pay for golf and piano lessons.  That stuff can add up and it’s way better than another stuffed animal!
      • Cut back on those extra coffees from Starbuck’s or Dunkin’ Donuts.  You’ve probably seen the math before, but just one of those each week adds up to hundreds of dollars a year.  Save that money and throw it in a jar.  You can use that for Christmas shopping.
      • Skip the picture with Santa.  We used to spend close to $30 or more to see Santa at the mall and for what?  So we could stand in line for over an hour with crabby parents and kids.  I’m so over that.
      • Don’t skimp on generosity to those in need as well as friends, family and neighbors.  It may sound counterintuitive, but giving to others actually brings more money back to you.  Even if you don’t believe in karma, there is something to be said for those who won’t share their wealth.  Plus, I’m sorry, but being stingy just makes a person look like an a$$hole.
      • When you’re hosting and people offer to bring something over, whether it’s during the holidays or any time of the year take them up on it!  My brother-in-law always provides the wine for our Christmas gathering and our other relatives never arrive empty-handed with side dishes, appetizers or little hostess gifts.

      If you have any of your own ideas, please share them and I’ll add them to this post.

      Don’t worry if your holiday spending is still freaking you out.  I’ll be back with a post next month to share how to shave down your outstanding bills and start saving for retirement and college.  Until then, hang in there and have a Merry Christmas!

       

       

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      Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged cutting costs during holidays, Holiday spending, saving during Christmas
    • Remembering A Great Woman

      Posted at 8:24 am by Lisa Cavallari
      Jan 23rd

      elvira

      A week ago today, our family laid to rest an awesome and influencial lady- my husband’s grandma, Elvira Cavallari.  For fifty two years, her and her husband owned a family-run restaurant in Northfield called The Willow Inn Club.  My husband’s family lived above the restaurant and he started setting tables when he was six.  His family knows a thing or two about hard work.  When I met Elvira thirteen years ago, she told me to call her Grandma so I did.  She told my dad, who lost his mom to cancer a while back that he could call her Mom.  So he did.  That’s just who she was; she accepted everyone and always made us feel comfortable and welcome when we visited her home.

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      Elvira taught me to make homemade spaghetti, gnocchi, pumpkin bread, sugar coated pecans, Italian chicken with peppers and so many other delicious recipes.  Her spirit lives on whenever we make one of them now.

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      In a way, she inspired me to start this blog.  Her recipes were always unique and practically fail proof so I referred to them often when I started writing here just over three years ago.

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      We miss you Elvira, but we know you are with many of your loved ones and looking out for us down here.  Cheers Grandma!

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    • School’s Starting Giveaway

      Posted at 10:00 am by Lisa Cavallari
      Aug 20th

       

      The Duke

      With football season beginning and the start of school today, I wanted to offer my very first giveaway to celebrate.  One lucky reader will win this Official NFL Game Ball from Wilson.  All I ask is that you post a favorite childhood memory of school, whether it was a particular subject, something amazing that happened at school or a favorite teacher, let’s reminisce a bit.

      I’ll go first.  My favorite childhood teacher was Mrs. Parrish in first grade.  She was always impeccably dressed, wore expensive perfume and left the biggest impression on me at a young age.  Her laughter was infectious.  Mrs. Parrish definitely made learning fun.

      Mrs. Parish

      Here she is wearing one of my favorite outfits.   I believe my mom took this photo on Valentine’s Day when school was about to let out.

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      Here is Sydney with her new first-grade teacher, Miss Moxness.

      Best wishes for an awesome school year to all of you parents and your children!

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